Many young Muslims find themselves torn by the conflicting demands of their own life styles, family expectations, and their understandings of what is permissible within Islam. Many handle these conflicts by compartmentalizing their lives and keeping secrets. Sexuality is an arena where such conflicts often play out most secretly or dramatically, as in the situation of the young woman who feels constrained by the expectation that she not threaten her family’s honor through her sexual activity. Other youth from Muslim families articulate fundamental incompatibilities in being “gay” or “queer” and Muslim, or in being queer and maintaining the honor of their family by marrying. Based on field research among young people in Turkey, Pakistan, and India, I explore how the unlivable subject positions that these people often find themselves in are exacerbated by a collision of misrecognized and politically polarized notions of authenticity and consistency. I argue that these politically powerful but often implicit understandings of authenticity and consistency underlie modern discourse of the rights-bearing subject. One component of this discourse is the pathologization of the secret. This discourse has shaped not only European and American secular perceptions of Muslims but also Islamic articulations of the good Muslim, so that other ways of being Muslim and other ways of being modern have been marginalized and abjected as being inauthentic or traditional. Working with young people who are caught in political, interpersonal, and intrapsychic conflicts over sexuality, my interpretive strategy is to juxtapose evidence for how they manage their secrets with their articulations of concern over consistency and authenticity in their reflections on themselves, their sexualities, and their identities.